Initiate conversations with your parents about your school or work day so that they feel included in your life. For example, if your mom asks, “how was your day?” you might share an anecdote or a story that you heard in class. If your parents ask you about a new club or sport you are involved in, try not to shrug off the question and instead tell them something about it. For example, if they ask about your new soccer team, you might say, “soccer practice was exhausting but I learned some new stuff about defence,” and tell them what you learned in some detail. This will make them feel more a part of your life, and decrease their desire to snoop around your room.

For instance, you can ask, “have you been looking around in my room?” If they say “yes,” you will know you need to move forward with requesting some privacy. If they say “no,” you might want to look into other explanations such as someone else snooping in your room or the possibility that a pet dog or cat has been in the room.

You might explain, “I need my bedroom space to be private so that I can work on my projects in peace and have some space and time for myself. I am sure you can understand this need. It would be great if you could stop snooping around in my room so that I can keep this space to myself. "

Tell your parents about any new responsibilities that you have at school or at work. [8] X Research source Tell your parents about any concerns or issues you have at school or work. By showing openness about your life, they will be more likely to respect your personal boundaries. [9] X Research source

Foster inclusiveness of all members of your family when discussing privacy ground rules. [13] X Research source Compose ‘do’ rules concerning privacy, such as ‘always knock before entering a room’, and add these to the list of privacy ground rules. Make sure everyone agrees to the specificities of the ‘do’ rules. [14] X Research source Compose ‘don’t’ rules concerning privacy, such as ’never enter a bedroom, aside from your own, without knocking’. Make sure everyone agrees to the specificities of the ‘don’t’ rules. By following boundaries set by your parents, they’re more likely to trust you and respect your privacy. [15] X Expert Source Sabrina Grover, LMSWLicensed Master Social Worker Expert Interview. 3 December 2021.

Try discussing your need for privacy at school, work or other areas of your life. If your parents have a broader understanding of your privacy needs, they may be able to better help you meet these needs.