Say “Though I love you very much, it’s time for me to move on. You told me that you don’t love me, and I’d like to have a relationship with someone who cares for me as much as I care for them. ” You can also say “Though I love you very much, we haven’t been happy for a long time. I cry more than I smile and I don’t think this is healthy. We can talk about it more, but I have made my decision. ”
If you work or have class together, only talk when necessary.
If you must talk, do so in a neutral location that won’t bring up old feelings, like a coffee shop. Be civil with them but avoid being too friendly. When you talk, it’s okay to be polite and ask how they’ve been, but get to the point of the conversation quickly. Say something like “I’m glad you’re doing well! So let’s talk about Josiah now. His first day of Pre-K is tomorrow and we need to make a schedule for picking him up every day. ”
If money is tight, take a day trip instead. Go to a local beach or to a big city nearby to sightsee.
Think about the time they were rude to your mother, made you cry on your birthday, or how selfish they were in general.
If you’re inexperienced with meditation, you can download apps like Headspace or Calm.
Try not to call them too often upset about the relationship ending, however. No matter how good a friend they are, they won’t want to hear sad news all the time.
Throwing out any clothing you haven’t worn in years and replacing it with new, stylish outfits. Moving or rearranging or updating your furniture. Updating your resume and applying for a higher ranking position.
Do workout classes or run around your neighborhood with a friend.
You can do things like dance, read, ride horses, cook, or paint.
Though new relationships are exciting, avoid rebounds. Don’t start going out on dates until you have moved on completely. Some signs that you’ve moved on are crying less often, not thinking of them when you wake up or go to bed, and not getting emotional when you hear your old songs.
