Begin the conversation by saying, “What was it like for you growing up?” Or you could say, “I think it’s really cool you went backpacking across Europe. What was that like?” It’s sometimes difficult for a child to remember that their parents have lives, too. What’s more, it can be hard to believe that their lives didn’t always revolve around you and your siblings.
For instance, if they enjoy sports, strike up a game with them. If they attend a book club, ask if you can join. Spending time with them while they are doing something they love will create happy memories for all involved.
Don’t worry if your meal isn’t perfect. Your parents won’t mind if your cuisine isn’t five-star. They will only appreciate the time and effort you put into meal. [2] X Research source
Make it a weekly thing, if possible, to attend devotional or other spiritual meetings with your parents. You can even learn meditation together. Alternatively, ask your parents more about their faith. This will also help show them that you care and are interested in their lives.
Introduce them to your friends. Share essays or projects you did at college. Invite them to your kids’ birthday parties. Ask them for advice about dating.
Wash and fold the laundry. Clean and put away the dishes. Pick up after yourself and others. Run the vacuum around the house. Cut and rake the grass for them.
Stay respectful, especially if your parents are older. They may not like the fact that they need help driving. Asking their permission to drive them around, instead of telling them that you are, can make a big difference.
Your parents may not be forthcoming about what they need help with because they don’t want to burden you. Ask them directly how you can help. If they still won’t tell you, do some inspecting of the home yourself, or ask other family members if they know if something needs to be done. [5] X Research source
Pay some of their bills. Buy their groceries. Cover the expenses for their pets. Work out a plan with them to help manage their finances.
Take you time to say it and be sure to make contact. There’s a big different between an “I love you, Mom,” and a “Love ya!”
You could also write a poem or short story to express your gratitude and love. They will likely appreciate the time and effort you put into creating this gift for them. Another option is to send a nice e-card with a personal message if you are not the creative type.
The act of hugging releases a bonding hormone that reduces stress and helps fight off physical illness. Hugging your parents more often could actually benefit their health. [9] X Research source
You could paint your parents a picture, make them a card, take a portrait of them and put it in a frame, or even create a sculpture. Or, you can just dedicate an entire day to spend with them one-on-one. [10] X Research source
Talk with your parents to decide how much telephone contact you all are comfortable with. Some parents may not enjoy talking on the phone as much, while others might like a weekly chat. Be sure to check what times work for them. Don’t call them when you are spending time with others, driving, or are otherwise busy, as this will make them feel secondary.
