One method for opening up one friend to the idea of being introduced to another friend is to say something like, “Have I ever mentioned my friend Rick before? I was just realizing that the two of you have both been to Spain. ” Avoid setting up friends who could potentially clash over major lifestyle differences. For instance, if you know your guy friend can’t wait to find someone to marry and have children with but your female friend doesn’t plan to have children and prefers to take it slow in her relationships, that might not be a wise match. Don’t match up 2 friends just because they’re both single.
When speaking with each friend, be sure to highlight the positives about the other person. Try saying something along the lines of, “I have this friend Jill who is really great at cooking. She’s funny too. I think you’d like her. Maybe I can introduce you some time, if that’s alright with you. ”
If the two friends are coworkers, even if they work in different departments or separate buildings, it might be best not to play matchmaker. If things end badly between them, there is still the potential that they could run into one another in the workplace. Another thing to keep in mind is how your friendship with both parties might be affected. If things don’t work out between them, you could find yourself caught in the middle should they choose to gossip about one another to you. You might even be asked to choose sides. If things do not work out, offer each friend a simple apology. You can say something like, “I’m sorry things didn’t work out. ” Then, avoid bringing up the topic again. Only discuss the situation if the other person brings it up first.
When one friend approaches while you’re talking to the other friend, introduce them by name. Then try saying something like, “You know, Mia enjoys gardening and has a green thumb just like you Joe. ” Now your two newly introduced friends can strike up a conversation about their shared interest in gardening.
Invite your two friends out for appetizers or drinks. Organize a weekend cookout or host a small party at your place and invite both friends. Plan a mutually liked activity, such as hiking or mini golf, and invite both of your friends to join you. If you are in a relationship, suggest a double date with you and your partner accompanied by the two friends you wish to set up.
Do not interrupt your two friends while they’re out on a date alone. Avoid texting to find out how things are going until you are sure the date is over. Waiting until the next day to follow up is best. When you do follow up, try asking something simple like, “How did things go?”
