Don’t feel like you need to fill them in on your life now — save this conversation for when you meet later.
Move beyond surface conversation to talk about things that matter to you, like your life and work. Friends usually talk about much more than the weather.
Try to limit this first meeting to 1-2 hours — the goal is simply to reconnect with each other.
Meet for drinks once a week. Invite them to parties or events with “new” friends. Send letters or emails with details from your life from time to time.
Your first meeting should be a chance to talk and catch up, so give yourself time and space to chat. At this stage you are trying to feel out their emotions and see if you can still be friends. Don’t come into the meeting with expectations or an agenda.
That said: if you feel like you’ve both moved on and feel comfortable, then don’t avoid each other. Congratulate yourself on successfully mending your relationship, and enjoy your rediscovered bond.
Don’t feel like you need to share everything or talk once a week. Simply taking an hour every now and then to chat is often all you need to do to keep a friendship alive.
