For example, you should say something like “I’d love to go out with you!” instead of “Well, let me check my calendar and get back to you. ” It is okay to agree to the date but tell him you have to check to see when you’re available, particularly since you might be busy. Say something like “I’d love to go out – I think I’m free next Friday but let me check my calendar. ”

Examples of good first date places are quiet coffee shops or bars. Try to avoid going to the movies on a first date, or going out to eat. You can’t talk in a movie so you won’t know anymore about him after the date than you did before. Trying to eat a meal and talk at the same time is also difficult.

You can say something like in your message back like “Thanks so much for messaging me. I’d love to go out!”

For example, you can say something like “Thanks for asking me out – I’d love to go out! How’s Friday night at 8?”

Unless you’ve established that you both love phone conversations, refrain from calling him before the first date except to discuss meeting logistics. You can do this through the dating app or website where you met.

For example, you can say something like “Thank you so much for asking/messaging me! I know how hard it is to take that first step. ”

For example, you can say, “I really appreciate you asking me, but I’m just not interested. ”

For example, don’t say “I’m seeing someone” if you’re not or “I’m not looking for a relationship” if you are. The fact that you have an online dating profile suggests you are looking to date and makes these responses sound hollow. [12] X Research source You might also be turning him down because you’re just not interested in men. Be honest about it if that’s the case. [13] X Research source

You can ignore this rule if you get a date request from a total stranger or if the request itself is overly aggressive or sexually explicit.