There are a lot of myths out there about things that girls don’t like: being a “nice guy,” being sensitive, etc. Believing those myths might actually lose you points. Treat girl friends (as opposed to girlfriends) like one of the guys: be friendly, talk about your shared interests, tell jokes, and listen. Toss in some extra politeness and consideration and voila! You’re on your way to becoming that down-to-earth, chivalrous guy she’s been hoping for.
For example, saying something like, “You look nice, Julia,” may be true, and she’ll probably like to hear it, but c’mon—it’s something her brother could say! Instead, try something like, “Damn, Julia, you look sexy today. Those jeans are smokin’ on you!” Think her brother might say that? Let’s hope not. Don’t be her brother and don’t give her reason to think of you as one.
Appreciate all of her—her mind, her spirit, and her body. Let her know you think she’s pretty, or sexy, or both.
The next time you sit next to one of these girls in class, strike up a conversation with her; the next time you see a girl standing around at a party or club, invite her to dance. Even if it’s clear that there’s no romantic interest, she won’t forget it—and she will never look at you the same way again. Learning how to interact with girls on a social level, without wanting anything other than their company, is a good lesson to learn. The more comfortable you are around girls in general, the more comfortable you will be when you meet somebody you really like.
Studies also show that the left side of the face tends to be considered the most attractive. Take a new photo of yourself looking off and to the right with either a brooding, downward-glancing, Edward-Cullen-ey look or a cocky, up-ward looking, Jacob-Black-ey look—and watch the “likes” and “favorites” pour in.
You’re never going to be able to act confident unless you also feel confident. Doing something as simple as getting some new clothes, looking a bit more stylish, or getting the right haircut can help you feel more attractive and confident. If you approach girls like a desperate beggar who is terrified of rejection, they will know it instinctively, and will proceed to prove you right. Don’t act like you’re too cool to care. Just be enthusiastic and calm, and if something goes wrong, laugh it off and move forward without a scratch.
How to Have a Great Conversation How to Have a Witty Conversation How to Read Body Language How to Touch a Girl—excellent if you’re desperate for ways to break the touch barrier If you don’t have a lot of flirting experience, practice having simple conversations with random people. Once you get comfortable talking to strangers, it’ll be a lot easier to approach women.
Many are the tales of the gorgeous girl who never got asked out because everybody was so sure that she was either already busy or too beautiful for them, that they never asked. Be persistent. If a girl you’re really interested in doesn’t say yes the first time, try again later. This doesn’t mean being clingy or acting like a stalker; it means smiling, saying, “Alright—I’ll try again next week,” and going about your own business for a while. If you normally talk to her during the week, don’t stop. Just don’t pressure the date request. Give her some time to think about how cool and confident you were and the next time you ask, you might be surprised by how differently she responds.
If you’re at the kissing stage, make sure you are ready—clean, fresh breath, all of that. If you’re at the relationship stage, make sure you know how to be a good boyfriend. If things get serious, make sure you know how to have a healthy relationship. Going through the trouble of making a girl crazy about you only to let her down when things get interesting is enough to make a girl plain crazy!
