Do not scream and yell at you mom. This will likely only make her more upset with you. When you talk to your mom, be clear about your emotions and say things like “I’m mad at you because…” or “I feel angry because…” If you feel like your mom is more strict with you than your other siblings, you can say something like “I’m mad at you because you always punish me and not Steve!” If you are upset because you feel like you do more than your fair share of chores, say something like “I’m frustrated because I feel like I am the only one who has to take out the trash and sweep the floors. ”
This is a very mature thing to do and your mom should be proud your responsible attitude. Say something like “I’m upset and I’m going to my room to cool down. ”
If you are upset because your sibling gets to do something and you do not, say something like “I’m angry that Tim gets to go roller skating and I don’t. I’m not as upset as I’d be if he got to go to Mars without me, but I’m upset. ”
If you are having a hard time calming down, try focusing on the things that your mom has done for you. That might help give you some perspective.
Really concentrate on each breath you take. Think about the sensation of breathing in and exhaling. You can exhale loudly to let your mom know that you are upset.
If you count to ten out loud, this may let your mom know that you are upset.
Try lying down in your room or somewhere private away from your mom.
Try keeping a journal and write down how you feel. This may be a good outlet for your anger. Think about whether you are actually mad at your mom or upset about something else.
Every time you do something, try to label how it makes you feel. For example, “I am happy I am eating this pizza” or “this movie is making me sad. ”
Talk with your mom about ways that you can improve your diet and get more exercise. Try practicing meditation or yoga as a way to calm yourself.
