But don’t overthink it – having a crush on someone doesn’t mean you want him to be your soul mate. It just means you like him and want to spend more time around him.
If you catch yourself daydreaming about the guy in class or anywhere. If you think about the guy as you drift off to sleep. Bonus points if you ever dream about him, even if it isn’t in a romantic way. If you find yourself always wondering what the guy is doing or what he’s up to. If you’re always wondering what the guy would think about certain things. What would he think of your new dress, your new haircut, the movie you just saw, or the restaurant you just tried? Notice how often you think about the guy each day. Once a day? Maybe not. Once an hour? Probably a crush.
If you’re feeling so distracted by the thought of your guy that you can’t even hold a conversation with one of your friends for more than five minutes, then you have a crush. If you can’t read more than a paragraph of your homework assignment without picturing your guy’s face, or wondering if he did his homework, then you have a crush. If you find yourself drifting off with thoughts of your guy in the middle of a movie, or even during a thirty-minute TV show, then you have a crush. If you’re so distracted that you can’t focus on taking notes in class and find yourself doodling the guy’s name, then you are definitely crushing.
Try to remember if you thought about a different crush this way before. What kind of thoughts did you have? If you’re having similar thoughts about a new boy toy, then it’s likely that you have a crush. Know your crushing style. Were you also in denial when you were falling for your previous crush? If so, then this is a sign that this is your way of easing into a crush. If you’ve never had a crush, then you may not have anything to compare your crush to. If this is the case, then you probably do have a crush and just don’t know what it feels like!
If you can’t stay still when you’re around him, then you may have a crush. If your hands shake, or you can’t stop talking, or you just keep gesturing when you speak, then your energy level is higher than usual because you have a crush. If you’re so excited that you laugh at everything he says even if it’s not that funny, you probably have a crush. If you like the guy, you’re more likely to think that every word that comes out of his mouth is hilarious. If you’re so excited that you can’t sleep at night because you keep thinking of the guy or replaying your conversation in your head, then you have a crush. If you feel a jolt of excitement or butterflies in your stomach when he greets or texts you, then you have a crush.
If your hands tremble, your knees shake, or your voice wavers when you’re around him, then he’s making you nervous. If you’re so nervous that you keep rambling when you talk to him or just completely clam up because you can’t think of anything to say, then you have a crush. If you’re so nervous that you bump into things around him, walk into tables, or drop all of the contents of your purse in front of him, then you have a crush. If you’re so nervous that you always feel embarrassed, or constantly blush when you’re around the guy even though there’s no reason for it, then you have a crush.
If the thought of the guy dating other girls makes you cringe, you probably have a crush. If the thought of the guy just hanging out with other girls makes you feel squeamish, then you definitely have a crush. Just try not to make this a problem in the future or you may be facing some jealousy issues. If he has a girlfriend and you think he has a great relationship and are happy for him without any complications, then you probably don’t have a crush.
If you find yourself always teasing the guy. If you always end up poking fun at the guy without meaning to, it means you have a crush. If you talk really fast or stutter when you say anything to the guy, it means you have a crush. If you’re careful about not saying anything that might make you look like a ditz or dumb in front of the guy, then you have a crush. And if you feel like everything you say to him does make you sound like a ditz, then you probably have a crush. If you can’t talk to one of your friends for more than ten minutes without mentioning the guy, then you have a crush. If you have a crush, your friends may be able to pick up on it before you do.
If you go out of your way to hang out with him, then you have a crush on him. If you’ve never watched baseball in your life but are suddenly going to all the school games because you know he’ll be sitting in the bleachers, then you have a crush. If you want to be near him whenever you do hang out. If you find yourself drifting toward him when you’re in a group of friends, or even touching him in a playful way whenever you can, then you have a crush. If you can’t stand being around him when he’s flirting with other girls, then you have a crush. If your heart falls when you show up to a place where you thought he’d be and he isn’t there, then you have a crush.
If you try twice as hard to look good if you know you’ll see him. If you wear your best outfit, best hairdo, and most amazing eye makeup when you know he’ll be there, then you have a crush. If you find yourself experimenting with new makeup looks or jewelry to see if he notices, then you have a crush. If you find yourself not caring at all about how you look if you go somewhere where you know you won’t see him, then you have a crush.
