They often make you feel small to inflate their own egos. They are masters of manipulation, which often leads to them having all the power and you having none. In addition, narcissists often end relationships by trying to assassinate your character (e. g. saying you cheated) when, in fact, they may have been the culprit of wrongdoing.
Refuse to let the narcissist re-enter your life as they please. Delete their phone numbers and email addresses. Also, un-follow them on your social media profiles. In order to heal completely, you may have to make a complete break. Try to maintain your boundaries, even if they try to reenter your life.
Don’t give in to the narcissist’s games. If they bait you with insulting texts, don’t respond. If they try to re-connect with you, stay firm in your decision to separate from them. Staying involved with the narcissist will only continue to cause emotional pain and delay your recovery.
For example, they might spend time with you on special days when you are more likely to try to contact the narcissist.
Recovery can take a long time. It’s OK to heal at your own pace.
Give yourself permission to grieve, but don’t get lost in your grief. Instead, try mindfulness by noticing your thoughts, labeling the feelings, and recognizing how they manifest in your body. Feel them and then let them go. [6] X Research source
Resist the urge to call yourself “stupid” or criticize your inability to see the narcissist’s true nature. Remember even if you “feel” stupid, it doesn’t mean you are. Feelings are not facts.
Self-care can be anything that helps you feel relaxed and nourished. Try creating a routine of journaling, lighting a scented candle, and playing soft music. Or, pick up a new hobby, learn how to bake, or plant flowers in your garden. Do whatever makes you feel good. [8] X Research source
Ask your therapist for suggestion of groups online or in your community.
Make a list of your best qualities and hang it up on a mirror. Set a new goal each month and track your progress towards reaching it. Challenge yourself to do things you never thought you would and you may find that your belief in yourself is renewed.
Embrace your caring and compassionate side. Don’t push that away or vow to never trust again.
Recognize the role you played in the relationship and make a commitment to work on yourself. Try not to let your previous relationship define you. You can be anyone you want to be.
Simply because one relationship was toxic that doesn’t mean all of them will be. Cherish your existing friends and family and have faith that someday you will have a healthy, satisfying relationship.
