Does this person cause a jumble of thoughts to come rushing into your head all at once? You could have a crush on them. If you want to spend most of your time with this person, or if something exciting happens and you wish they were there to see it, then you may have a crush. If you stim when excited or nervous, try to keep an eye on how much you’re stimming whenever you’re around this person. If you start stimming a lot whenever you think of or are around this person, then it’s possible you have a crush. If you smile a lot when thinking about them or talking to them, you could possibly have a crush. If you could previously speak somewhat smoothly around this person, and now you’re suddenly tripping over your words, or are unsure of what to say all the time around them, you could have a crush. If you are shy around this person and are afraid of the impression you’ll give off in conversation, you probably have a crush. If you regularly fantasize about spending time with this person, or even things like dating or kissing them, you definitely have a crush.
If you don’t have a crush, there’s nothing wrong with that, either. Not having crushes doesn’t mean that you’re broken or that there’s something the matter with you. It’s possible you may be aromantic, or that you don’t feel romantic attraction, and there’s nothing “broken” about that.
If your crush is significantly older or younger than you, it may be best to avoid telling them about your feelings or showing affection. You may get taken advantage of, or be viewed as “creepy”.
Don’t take this to mean that you should assume everyone is a bad person. Many people have good intentions, and if they find out you have a crush on them, their initial response won’t be to hurt you. However, there are some people in the world with malicious intent and who may want to string you along or play mind games with you. For this reason, be careful about who you associate with. Avoid telling your crush how you feel if they belittle groups of people - for example, if they mock people of a different race than them or use “autistic” as an insult. This person probably isn’t the kind of person you would want to be in a relationship with, no matter if you think they like you back or not.
Nobody is everyone’s type. Dita Von Teese once said, “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches. “[1] X Research source You can be wonderful and still not be compatible with someone. Make a list of positive characteristics. Consider traits enhanced by autism, and traits unique to you.
Thoughts of self-harm and/or suicide are not normal. You don’t deserve to feel that way, and you can get help.
Look for activities that can get you out of the house. Loved ones can be a great distraction. Focus on them, how they feel, and what they’ve been up to. This can give you a break from your own problems. Learn a new skill, whether it’s baking cookies or speaking another language.
Look at them from across the room, and smile. Find ways to touch them, like fixing their hair, picking lint off their shirt, or touching their arm. (Don’t “trap” them, though; some people don’t like touching. ) Smile. Play with your hair. Face your crush, and use open body language. Compliment them once or twice.
A disinterested person might use closed-off body language, avoid your touch, show signs of embarrassment while not smiling, and look away as if planning an escape. Either you are coming off too strong and need to tone it down, or they are not interested and you should stop. An interested person will probably smile and use open body language. They might also flirt back with extra compliments, touches, and lip-biting.
Negging means using put-downs in flirting. The person wants their target to feel insecure and try to “prove themselves. " Even though you see it in some books and movies, it’s manipulative and wrong. Boundary stomping means ignoring someone’s clear boundaries. For example, if someone chases after someone who asked to be left alone, that’s harmful.
