Contacting them through social media also allows them to look at your own social media account. This can help bring them up to speed about you and your life if they have trouble recalling who you are. [1] X Research source
In the email you could say, “Hi! I hope you’re doing well; it’s been a long time! I’ve been thinking about how we used to have so much fun together and thought it would be nice to catch up with you sometime. ” This type of greeting gives them the opportunity to reach back out to you, if they feel comfortable doing so. It is also general and non-threatening, so they may feel more apt to accept your invitation.
In the text you could say, “Hey! How are you? We should get dinner soon!”[2] X Research source
Be sure to leave a message if the phone isn’t answered. People tend to screen their calls, especially if they are unsure of the number calling them. [4] X Expert Source Adam Dorsay, PsyDLicensed Psychologist & TEDx Speaker Expert Interview. 11 April 2019.
For instance, you could ask to meet for dinner or coffee, suggest taking your children to the park together, going for a walk, or catching a movie. [5] X Research source
However, stay away from touchy subjects such as politics, religion, or intimate experiences. You want to appear friendly and trustworthy, not creepy.
Offer to help out to build the friendship. Volunteering to babysit, run an errand, or make dinner for your old acquaintance can show them you want to be their friend. These acts of kindness can show your friend that you are genuinely interested in having a relationship again. [7] X Research source
Avoid sending additional texts or messages and don’t call if they are showing signs that they aren’t interested in reestablishing the friendship. Remember it’s up to them whether they want to reconnect with you. [8] X Research source
Some people make themselves private on social media, meaning that the general public can’t view their profiles. Still, you should be able to send them a friend request or write a brief message.
Go to your school’s website and look for the link to the alumni association. You can also call your school and ask about joining the association. These types of organizations typically have get-togethers that allow you to interact with people you went to school with, giving you the opportunity to find the person you are looking for, as well as others you may have lost contact with. [9] X Research source
Use social media or search engines to find their mutual friends or family members. Make sure you introduce yourself in a way that helps them remember you. If not, they will likely be afraid or hesitant to give you the information you’re looking for.
For example, you can try the free sites wink. com, zabasearch. com, and pipl. com to find your friend. Or you can pay to use peoplefinders. com and intelius. com to potentially receive more useful information. [10] X Research source
